There I was sitting at the kitchen table with a cup of tea I sipped on.
It was steaming and the rain was pouring as I sat in the dark listening to the random and sporadic taps on the window.
How did I end up here? And the bittersweet tears rolled down my face dropping like little pellets right into my tea cup.
One of the hardest things to do in life is to change how you live it. I’m not necessarily talking about career changes and things like that. I’m really taking about behavior, mindsets, and why we do what we do over and over again hoping things will be different.
The mindset has to be there to accomplish any goal
you choose to focus on.
Asking the question “How did I end up here” rings of just letting life pull you along. Not doing anything about it unless there was a crisis of some kind.
My cup of tea was tangible my state of mind was not because I was confused, sad, with no direction. Is this all there is in my life?
Default living is like floating on the ocean, being carried in one direction or another and not of your choosing – you go where the currant goes. It’s settling for what has always been and just rolling with it. And personally, that can be a very regretful life. Because all the things you wish you did never happen.
I tell new parents when I teach my mindful meditation classes never get so wrapped up in your children’s lives that you forget who YOU are. It’s easy to do and 20 years goes fast..
At that time in my life, lamenting over tea, I realized this was not the end of my life. No it was the beginning. I had the power to change direction and not live by default. So I started writing books on childbirth. I learned about hypnosis and NLP (neuro-lingustic programming). I got more active on the internet and blasted those archaic ideas about myself Most of them, if not ALL of them were not true. They were thoughts I made up about myself based on what I heard from teachers, my parents, and friends growing up. ALL External stuff.
So who do you believe?
It should be YOU.
For true success to come in your life, no matter what that means to you, it has to come from within your being, your heart, your soul. You have to believe in yourself and not accept the crap from the past. I call it that because that’s just what it is – manufactured crap that stripped you of your ability to connect with your true, gifted, essence.
The raw truth is, and it’s a good one, nothing will happen in my life, or yours, unless I take responsibility for it, and make the change myself. No one else can do it for me. Breaking through the untruths is scary and invigorating.
Breaking out of default living can be done if you:
- Get scared and learn something new
- Honor your goals because the only one you’ll hurt is yourself
- LISTEN to your intuition it’s always right
- Become aware of the struggle
- Find a solution that won’t overwhelm you
- Take small steps because you’ll see them sooner and will lead to great changes
- Use Mindful Meditation for self guidance and insights
- Be kind to yourself
- Teach, helping others helps you to learn more about yourself
- Change your state of mind when in a maze of confusion about your life. Turn on some up beat music, dance, go for a walk … the worst thing you can do is dwell on your currant problems
- Believe in yourself. Know one knows you better than you … now that’s empowering!
Can you spot things in your own life where you’re living by default?
In the midst of challenge there is calm.
PS: Learn Mindful Meditation through the Robin Hood Mentoring program and so much more.
I know Lesly as not only a very special mentor who has taught me SO much about blogging, but a dear friend to me as well! For that I am so very grateful xoxoxox Love PAC and most of all I love Lesly and everything that she and all of us have accomplished in almost 3 years! The community is so lucky to have her!! All I can say is WOW!!
Lesly who I have believed for a very long time to be one empowering, and knowledgeable woman! She is simply put Phenomenal!
This community really worth expanding! I have tried a lot of groups on Facebook, all were for exchanging comments, shares, likes etc. They don't care about networking, that is why I ended by leaving the groups the same day I joined. But this group is really awesome, YOU made it unique and cared with all aspects to make the networking the core of the process. No one need to share his blog url each time to get comments or shares, even the blog rotator idea doesn't enforce you to comment, it just tells you that these are our members' blogs and it will be awesome to see what they have new and maybe you will like to leave comment. Really Great work PAC!
Thank you for your awesome leadership and compassion for bloggers – offering such great direction and encouragement and resources WITHOUT charging outrageous amounts of money like SOME folks do!
Working with Lesly on a weekly basis has given me the courage and confidence to do things I never thought I could do. In a relatively short period of time Lesly has helped me shift my negative beliefs about myself as a writer to start creating a blog. Her sincere enthusiasm for my little successes along the way has helped me overcome my procrastination and kept me motivated to work toward my goal of updating my website and having more of an online presence. I could not have accomplished any of this without her and I highly recommend her as a mentor