Two monks were watching a flag flapping in the wind.
One said to the other, “The flag is moving.”
The other replied, “The wind is moving.”
An elder, overhearing this exchange said, “Neither flag nor wind is moving; mind is moving.”
Because I am partially blind, I cannot drive a car. So when I need to go somewhere, shopping, or to work, I use a service called “Access Link” which provides transportation for the handicapped. It mirrors NJ transit bus routes throughout the state. What’s great about it is a small car or bus will pick me up at my home and drop me off at my “destination” which the driver’s GPS will announce. It’s great door-to-door service!
I have different drivers. But sometimes I’ll have the same driver for a while and then someone new. If I have the same driver for a while I get to know them. It’s not like taking public transportation where hardly anyone talks to you, or you to them. But the driver and I start to chit chat and over a brief amount of time, we know each other’s name, know a little about each other’s families, and so on.
This one driver, I’ll call her “Lucy”, has picked me up a few times. But, my first ride with her began at 5:30 AM one morning from my home to the hospital where I teach all day – till about 4:30 PM.
On this particular day, Lucy picks me up and it’s dark outside. The route she takes is even darker becausethere’s not many street lights brightening the road. We’re on back-roads and eventually a highway. Lucy starts talking about how she hates to take this bus route because it’s so dark and – the deer. She fears deer coming out from the side of the road and sprinting in front of the car she tells me, and rightly so. It’s a problem in New Jersey and probaly for anyone living in rual areas.
Sure enough, only a few moments after learning about her fear of deer, a deer darts out in front of the car! I couln’t see it, but I could hear a “whoosh ..” and then a huge “gasp” from Lucy! We were lucky! No damage was done except for the sudden surprise and shock for Lucy, and my silent sigh of relief. Lucy maintained her composure, control of the car, and got me to the hospital on time.
Needless to say, I was relieved and wondered if I would see her again.
For some time now I have been a student of “thought” through meditation, and how it can influence the choices you make in life as well as your health. There are so many research studies coming out now that have demonstrated how you think can decrease pain, depression, enhance health and healing from illness, and how thoughts can actually change structures in the brain for better thinking!
I have also been a student of “attraction” and have listened to Abraham- Hicks on the Law of Attraction, read personal development books on surrounding yourself with like-minded people and staying away from the naysayers and so on.
In NLP (neuro-lingustic programming) I’ve learned “what you focus on you experience” in your life and I have experienced this personally. This statement has a lot of value and truth. That’s why if you’re looking to buy a red car, all of a sudden you’ll actually start seeing many red cars.
I have put into practice being aware of my thoughts and focusing on good ones, and what I want to have happen in my life.
I tested it on my bus rides. I have consistently thought that all my bus rides will be on time, coming and going, and no waiting. I didn’t think of a particular driver because I actually like the diversity. I just thought about, and imagined the perfect bus ride.
I have been getting my perfect bus rides! To my amazement! You know as human beings we always say to ourselves – really? This is too good to be true, right?Yet, it’s been happening.
Well, for a few times now since my first ride with Lucy, she’s picked me up early in the morning. Each time continuing to talk about the darkness and the deer. I found myself getting involved with her perception, her beliefs and fear of the deer darting out in front of the car while driving. But this last ride with her, just a day ago, I recalled my experience with thought, how I can control it, and even at times change the direction of a conversation. So when she brought up the deer … yet again, I simply said “Look! The sun is rising! It’s going to be a beautiful day!”
No deer, no tension, smooth ride.
Everyone has different perceptions of life events based on their life experiences. The more you focus on something happening the more it will come to you, in all different ways. You can change what you choose to focus on. And, if you’re in the company of someone that shares experiences that may affect you emotionally or physically,
you can use your “thoughts” as a tool to change the direction of the conversation, what you’re experiencing at any given moment.
PS – Let me know your thoughts by leaving a comment below – thank you in advance ….